My parents were high school teachers, and we were told to focus on education. Dad was the first graduate in his family EVER – got 2 bachelor’s and a master’s degree. Mom was the first woman to finish high school in my Dad’s family. She got 2 bachelor’s and a...
You may believe that your highest value is you being smart and you see the world through this lens. It could be central in all your activities because all that you heard as you grew up was praise about your smartness, where you graduated from, how brainy you are… When...
As a child growing up, you had many personal experiences. You figured out that crying gets the attention of others, touching fire burns your fingers, a match enables you to start a fire, and more – you learnt much of what works/doesn’t, what you should/shouldn’t do in...
We tell ourselves stories… and the more we repeat the stories, they more they become ‘real’ to us. We believe them! We were all born buck-naked. Our minds were like clumps of clay. Who you are today is a result of your upbringing (other people’s influence) and...
Your parents never taught you about something super-important to your success… We humans are interesting creatures. We only become aware of common sense and obvious things AFTER somebody points it out to us. And then, we say, “Of course it’s common sense… of...
Most people confuse intelligence and smartness. I did too, for a long time. I was on the board of a business. A fellow board member asked me about how to structure the company for better tax treatment. I said, “I don’t know”. Visibly annoyed with me, he said, “But,...
